You’re doing everything right. It’s still not working.
You don’t have to carry it alone.
Find the calm, clarity, and support you’ve been looking for. Right here.
“Not everything needs to be fixed. Sometimes, we just need to know that what we're feeling is perfectly human.”
- Tanja Faessler
The emotional side
of fertility is
rarely talked about.
The emotional side
of fertility is
rarely talked about.
Nobody tells you how to handle
the fear, grief and silence
between appointments.
Nobody tells you how to handle
the fear, grief and silence
between appointments.
There is a
different way to
move through this.
There is a
different way to
move through this.
I know this journey.
Because I’ve lived it.
I know this journey. Because I’ve lived it.
I’m Tanja, a fertility counsellor, coach, and trainer with over 20 years of experience supporting individuals, couples, and healthcare professionals.
I’ve also walked this path myself. I know the fear that sets in between appointments. The grief that nobody seems to have space for. The way couples can be close, yet feel worlds apart.
That’s exactly why I built this: a space where the emotional side of fertility finally gets the attention it deserves.
My hope is that you'll find the understanding, reassurance, and practical tools to move forward with greater clarity and confidence.
I know this journey.
Because I’ve lived it.
I’m Tanja, a fertility counsellor, coach, and trainer with over 20 years of experience supporting individuals, couples, and healthcare professionals.
I’ve also walked this path myself. I know the fear that sets in between appointments. The grief that nobody seems to have space for. The way couples can be close, yet feel worlds apart.
That’s exactly why I built this: a space where the emotional side of fertility finally gets the attention it deserves.
My hope is that you'll find the understanding, reassurance, and practical tools to move forward with greater clarity and confidence.
A gentle path forward. One step at a time.
The support you need, at a pace that feels right for you.
01
Reflect
Understand where you are and what you’ve been carrying. Explore your emotions and recognise what you need most right now.
02
Release
Gently process the fear, grief, and weight you’ve been holding. Discover ways to ease emotional pressure and make room for greater calm.
03
Prepare
Move forward with clarity, calm, and renewed trust in yourself. Develop practical skills to move from uncertainty to confidence.
You deserve compassionate guidance, practical tools, and the reassurance that comes from years of experience.
You deserve compassionate guidance, practical tools, and the reassurance that comes from years of experience.
You deserve compassionate guidance, practical tools, and the reassurance that comes from years of experience.
Explore support for where you are right now.
Self-paced, thoughtfully designed courses offering practical tools and emotional guidance
for every stage of your fertility journey.
Getting Ready
for IVF
Prepare yourself emotionally, mentally, and practically so you can begin treatment feeling more ready.
Navigating Hormone Stimulation
Stay grounded through the physical and emotional ups and downs of hormone stimulation.
Preparing for Embryo Transfer
Approach this important moment feeling calmer, emotionally prepared, and supported.
Getting Ready
for IVF
Prepare yourself emotionally, mentally, and practically so you can begin treatment feeling more ready.
Navigating Hormone Stimulation
Stay grounded through the physical and emotional ups and downs of hormone stimulation.
Preparing for Embryo Transfer
Approach this important moment feeling calmer, emotionally prepared, and supported.
Getting Ready
for IVF
Prepare yourself emotionally, mentally, and practically so you can begin treatment feeling more ready.
Navigating Hormone Stimulation
Stay grounded through the physical and emotional ups and downs of hormone stimulation.
Preparing for Embryo Transfer
Approach this important moment feeling calmer, emotionally prepared, and supported.
Not sure where to start?
Have a question about the courses or which one might be right for you? I'd love to hear from you.
Not sure where to start?
Have a question about the courses or which one might be right for you? I'd love to hear from you.
Imagine navigating your fertility journey feeling like this.
With the right support, things begin to shift.
Calm and grounded
The overwhelm begins to lift and you move through each stage of your journey with steadiness and confidence.
Clear about what you’re feeling
You understand your emotions, recognise what matters most to you, and feel more at ease with where you are in your fertility journey.
Supported and truly seen
You feel understood and reassured that your emotions are valid, knowing that what you're experiencing is human and that you're not alone.
More connected
You feel closer to yourself and your partner, with a deeper understanding of each other's needs and a renewed sense of togetherness.
Calm and grounded
The overwhelm begins to lift and you move through each stage of your journey with steadiness and confidence.
Clear about what you’re feeling
You understand your emotions, recognise what matters most to you, and feel more at ease with where you are in your fertility journey.
Supported and truly seen
You feel understood and reassured that your emotions are valid, knowing that what you're experiencing is human and that you're not alone.
More connected
You feel closer to yourself and your partner, with a deeper understanding of each other's needs and a renewed sense of togetherness.
Calm and grounded
The overwhelm begins to lift and you move through each stage of your journey with steadiness and confidence.
Clear about what you’re feeling
You understand your emotions, recognise what matters most to you, and feel more at ease with where you are in your fertility journey.
Supported and truly seen
You feel understood and reassured that your emotions are valid, knowing that what you're experiencing is human and that you're not alone.
More connected
You feel closer to yourself and your partner, with a deeper understanding of each other's needs and a renewed sense of togetherness.
Kind words from those
I’ve supported.
Real experiences from individuals, couples, and professionals.
10,000+
Individuals & Couples Supported
500+
Healthcare Professionals Trained
20+
Years of Experience
These reflections come from individuals I've supported and professionals I've worked alongside throughout my counselling and training career.
Their experiences reflect the approach and values that inspired Your Fertility Counsellor.
IVF Specialist
Singapore
"I have known Tanja professionally for many years and have seen how her specialised fertility counselling complements the medical and scientific aspects of fertility care. Her work focuses on supporting patients through the emotional and psychological challenges associated with fertility treatment."
E.M.
Singapore
“Tanja made a truly positive difference throughout my IVF journey. I wish every person going through fertility challenges could have someone like her by their side — a ‘truth whisperer’ and a ‘secret friend’. I couldn’t have done it without her.”
E.P.
France
“Tanja is a true gem. Her support has been incredibly helpful — no matter what I brought into our sessions. I always left feeling lighter, uplifted, and supported long after the session ended.”
S.L.
United Kingdom
“Tanja has helped bring a much-needed, more holistic approach to fertility care. Her work supports couples emotionally — ensuring they don’t feel lost, overwhelmed, or alone in the process.”
IVF Specialist
Singapore
"I have known Tanja professionally for many years and have seen how her specialised fertility counselling complements the medical and scientific aspects of fertility care. Her work focuses on supporting patients through the emotional and psychological challenges associated with fertility treatment."
E.M.
Singapore
“Tanja made a truly positive difference throughout my IVF journey. I wish every person going through fertility challenges could have someone like her by their side — a ‘truth whisperer’ and a ‘secret friend’. I couldn’t have done it without her.”
E.P.
France
“Tanja is a true gem. Her support has been incredibly helpful — no matter what I brought into our sessions. I always left feeling lighter, uplifted, and supported long after the session ended.”
S.L.
United Kingdom
“Tanja has helped bring a much-needed, more holistic approach to fertility care. Her work supports couples emotionally — ensuring they don’t feel lost, overwhelmed, or alone in the process.”
IVF Specialist
Singapore
"I have known Tanja professionally for many years and have seen how her specialised fertility counselling complements the medical and scientific aspects of fertility care. Her work focuses on supporting patients through the emotional and psychological challenges associated with fertility treatment."
E.M.
Singapore
“Tanja made a truly positive difference throughout my IVF journey. I wish every person going through fertility challenges could have someone like her by their side — a ‘truth whisperer’ and a ‘secret friend’. I couldn’t have done it without her.”
E.P.
France
“Tanja is a true gem. Her support has been incredibly helpful — no matter what I brought into our sessions. I always left feeling lighter, uplifted, and supported long after the session ended.”
S.L.
United Kingdom
“Tanja has helped bring a much-needed, more holistic approach to fertility care. Her work supports couples emotionally — ensuring they don’t feel lost, overwhelmed, or alone in the process.”
Let’s make it simple.
Everything you need to know about finding the right support and getting started.
How do the online programs work?
Each program includes self-paced video lessons, guided reflections, practical exercises, and resources to support you through your fertility journey. You can work through the content in your own time, revisit lessons whenever you need, and move at a pace that feels right for you.
How do I know which program is right for me?
Every fertility journey is different. Each program focuses on a specific stage or emotional challenge, helping you find the support that best matches where you are right now. Explore the program descriptions to discover which one feels right for you.
Can I take a program on my own or with my partner?
Absolutely. You can explore the programs individually or work through them together with your partner. The reflections and exercises are designed to help you better understand your own emotions while also creating opportunities for meaningful conversations and greater connection.
How much time do I need to set aside?
There's no fixed schedule or pressure to keep up. Each program is designed to fit around your life, allowing you to watch the lessons, complete the exercises, and reflect on what you've learned whenever it suits you. Take the time you need, this is your journey, at your pace.
Will I receive personal counselling or support?
The programs are designed to provide emotional guidance, practical tools, and reassurance through self-paced video lessons and exercises. While they don't include individual counselling sessions, they draw on more than 20 years of professional experience supporting individuals and couples through fertility challenges. As YFC continues to grow, look out for optional add-ons, including one-to-one support and live sessions, offering opportunities for more personalised guidance.
Are the programs suitable for different stages of the fertility journey?
Yes. Fertility journeys are rarely straightforward, and emotional needs can change along the way. YFC is designed to offer support across different stages and experiences, from preparing for fertility treatment and navigating IVF to coping with setbacks, loss, and difficult decisions. Explore the available programs to find the support that feels right for you.
How do the online programs work?
Each program includes self-paced video lessons, guided reflections, practical exercises, and resources to support you through your fertility journey. You can work through the content in your own time, revisit lessons whenever you need, and move at a pace that feels right for you.
How do I know which program is right for me?
Every fertility journey is different. Each program focuses on a specific stage or emotional challenge, helping you find the support that best matches where you are right now. Explore the program descriptions to discover which one feels right for you.
Can I take a program on my own or with my partner?
Absolutely. You can explore the programs individually or work through them together with your partner. The reflections and exercises are designed to help you better understand your own emotions while also creating opportunities for meaningful conversations and greater connection.
How much time do I need to set aside?
There's no fixed schedule or pressure to keep up. Each program is designed to fit around your life, allowing you to watch the lessons, complete the exercises, and reflect on what you've learned whenever it suits you. Take the time you need, this is your journey, at your pace.
Will I receive personal counselling or support?
The programs are designed to provide emotional guidance, practical tools, and reassurance through self-paced video lessons and exercises. While they don't include individual counselling sessions, they draw on more than 20 years of professional experience supporting individuals and couples through fertility challenges. As YFC continues to grow, look out for optional add-ons, including one-to-one support and live sessions, offering opportunities for more personalised guidance.
Are the programs suitable for different stages of the fertility journey?
Yes. Fertility journeys are rarely straightforward, and emotional needs can change along the way. YFC is designed to offer support across different stages and experiences, from preparing for fertility treatment and navigating IVF to coping with setbacks, loss, and difficult decisions. Explore the available programs to find the support that feels right for you.
Something to reach for when you need it most.
Something to reach for when you need it most.
Practical tools, emotional guidance, and honest insights. Available any time you need a moment of clarity, support, or simply to feel a little less alone.
Practical tools, emotional guidance, and honest insights. Available any time you need a moment of clarity, support, or simply to feel a little less alone.
The Emotional Side of Fertility: What Nobody Talks About
Because fertility is about so much more than medical appointments, test results, and treatment plans.
IVF Is a Shared Journey: How to Support Each Other Through Treatment
Because you may experience fertility treatment differently, but neither of you should have to carry it alone.
Preparing for IVF: Five Ways to Feel More Emotionally Ready
Because preparing for IVF isn't just about medical appointments, medications, and treatment plans. It's about preparing yourself, too.
The Emotional Side of Fertility: What Nobody Talks About
Because fertility is about so much more than medical appointments, test results, and treatment plans.
IVF Is a Shared Journey: How to Support Each Other Through Treatment
Because you may experience fertility treatment differently, but neither of you should have to carry it alone.
Preparing for IVF: Five Ways to Feel More Emotionally Ready
Because preparing for IVF isn't just about medical appointments, medications, and treatment plans. It's about preparing yourself, too.